tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post5571146251101440131..comments2014-11-06T22:20:46.354-08:00Comments on Millennial Mind: Confessions From a Former Cumberbitchkellsndudzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13366356047013449951noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-6690282699321461882014-08-03T18:06:33.917-07:002014-08-03T18:06:33.917-07:00Thank you so much for posting this. I'm the sa...Thank you so much for posting this. I'm the same age as you and thought I had lost my mind ;) You have helped me realize that I don't need to daydream about celebrities to make me feel better about myself. I'm good enough as I am. Can't wait to spend more time with myself from now on. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-19362294655146586762014-08-02T01:56:26.286-07:002014-08-02T01:56:26.286-07:00The author of this blog entry is painting fans as ...The author of this blog entry is painting fans as obsessed, and assuming that "obsession" is immediately bad. This is actually related to my thesis right now. People like the author who belong to the out-group (i.e., those who are not fans or who are not as intense as fans) paints the in-group (i.e., those who are fans in every sense of the word) as obsessed, when the in-group describes themselves as passionate. This is the "social crisis" she is talking about, and she does have a valid (albeit biased for the out-group) point. All was fine until she assumed that the "obsessed young person" is a "hurting person". This is another factor that is at play here. There is a tendency for fan behaviour to be viewed as either normative or pathological. You either see what the fan does as a normal thing--most often when you're coming from an in-group perspective--or as a sort of sickness, as this person--and as someone from the out-group--does. I am not saying that what this person's argument is invalid, only that it is incomplete. An obsessed fan is not necessarily impaired by their obsession; nor are they obsessed because they are impaired. This article paints a very bad picture of fans, portraying us as impaired individuals who have a skewed sense of reality and who are looking for and needing "love and value". There is nothing wrong with being a fan or with being obsessed about anything. Someone labelled as obsessed may see him/herself as passionate--it's just a matter of perspective. Fan behaviour only becomes a problem when it becomes detrimental to the person, and one should never generalise the way this author has. There is so much more to fan behaviour and to being a fan than just obsession.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06072918367629919123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-81689865062574813642014-08-02T01:54:55.022-07:002014-08-02T01:54:55.022-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06072918367629919123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-15290185597011568632014-08-01T22:56:01.716-07:002014-08-01T22:56:01.716-07:00Great article. I found so much of myself in it. An...Great article. I found so much of myself in it. And it is true: obsession is a result of being unhappy and leads to more unhappiness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-40047656284269245272014-08-01T05:43:30.649-07:002014-08-01T05:43:30.649-07:00Kelly, you're gifted.Kelly, you're gifted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-5990670675813823632014-08-01T03:48:08.051-07:002014-08-01T03:48:08.051-07:00Thank you so much for your thoughts. It helps me a...Thank you so much for your thoughts. It helps me a lot to "get over it"!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-60317286767541367472014-07-31T16:56:33.964-07:002014-07-31T16:56:33.964-07:00Witty, vulnerable, well thought out, well defended...Witty, vulnerable, well thought out, well defended and supported. A bit harsh at the end. Hope you are kind and gentle with the girl who wrote this piece. She seems like an extremely cool person to me. Laura Roach Dragonhttp://lauraroachdragon.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-543926902681411766.post-53542117450237409982014-05-09T16:59:17.469-07:002014-05-09T16:59:17.469-07:00Entertaining AND thoughtful. Thanks, KellyEntertaining AND thoughtful. Thanks, KellyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com